Playing “Common” Songs at Your Wedding – A Lesson From Landscaping

Every once in a while, a couple getting married might will communicate that they don’t want any “common” or “typical” “wedding songs” to be played at their wedding.

There are a few reasons a couple might say this, and for the most part, these reasons are understandable.

One of the most common reasons is that they’ve experienced first-hand, maybe even many times, an over-reliance on certain songs by less-experienced (or simply LAZY) DJs who play the same tired, predictable fare at every wedding they do.  These DJs don’t take the time or effort to learn about the preferences and tastes of their clients, and they don’t take the time, or simply don’t have the skill needed, to “read” the dance floor and program music creatively.

The result can be a rather lackluster and somewhat impersonal experience for the couple and their guests.  It can also lead to more folks in the room rolling their eyes at each new song than there are people dancing to them!

The second most common reason is that couples want to be sure they infuse their celebration with their own unique personalities.  Of course, on their big day, they want to hear certain artists and songs they know, like, and even love.  Of COURSE this should be a goal for EVERY wedding!

Sometimes, though, as they try to avoid what they see as “cliches,” or as they try to make their wedding “unique,” they inadvertently swing too far from one extreme to another.

Quite often, this results in reduced potential for enjoyment by many guests, and can be detrimental to the experience of everyone.

Before I go any further, I’d like to share a true story from quite a few years back when I worked in landscape contracting & design.  Trust me… it’ll all come together and make sense in the end.

We did a landscape design for a couple that was pretty well off, and had a pretty impressive budget for their landscape design & installation.  As it came time in their design process to select plants, they decided they wanted to replace “a few” of the choices made by our designer in favor of some “different” selections.  They even said “I don’t want my yard to look like every other yard, and I don’t want to see those same plants that I see at every house, and on every street corner.”sacramento-back-yard-backyard-bench-stone-patio-path-hardscape-capital-landscape-web_1

We didn’t have a problem with that, and in fact we encouraged them to make some alternative selections.  When it was all said and done though, they made more than a couple or even a few selections, and replaced almost half of the original list with hard-to-find, special-order, and somewhat exotic plants.  They did TONS of research on these plants, and spent a pretty penny to get all of them.  We made suggestions along the way when we thought there might be issues with certain plants, but in the end, the final decisions were theirs.

Within about a month or so of finishing the installation, their expensive, hard-to-find, and special order plants started dying on them.  They just couldn’t take the heat and conditions in this area at that time of the year.  We replaced several of them in accordance with our warranty policy, but as more and more plants started to die, even the ones we brought in as replacements, we finally had to draw the line and let them know we wouldn’t be replacing any more plants for them free of charge.

The clients weren’t happy about this, but after we explained our reasons, they understood, and we made some replacements with some of the more common plants the designer originally included in the design.

What did we have to explain to them?

We basically said that yes… you DO tend to see a lot of common plants used in landscaping in any given area (not just ours).  Those plants are used for a reason.  They are used because they are hardy, attractive, and flourish in the conditions we live in.  Sure, we can try to get more exotic, and in some cases, we can pick alternatives that will do just fine.  But at the end of the day, we’re still going to be left with some plants that everyone is used to seeing and planting.  And that’s OKAY, because those plants WORK.

The same goes for many, many songs!  There are a lot of songs that work very well for older guests and family that tend to be at weddings.  Then, there are tons of songs that work exceptionally well across all generations young AND old alike at family-oriented events.

Not everyone is a natural-born dancer, and not everyone is necessarily comfortable dancing.  A great many people, young and old, will only dance to what they KNOW and recognize.  If our goal is to provide an atmosphere that is as conducive to as many people dancing as possible, and if we want to make the environment inviting and welcoming for them, we need to take these bits of “dance floor psychology” into consideration.

This isn’t to say, however, that we should focus on playing only, or even mostly, “those songs.”  BUT… if our goal is to provide for the enjoyment of as many guests as possible, and if we want to make the environment as inviting as we can so everyone can participate in the festivities, then our primary goal should be to strike and maintain a balance.

That balance we should strive for is the balance between the “cliche” and the “cool.”  Between the “predictable” (instead think “recognizable”) and the “unique.”

If you’re working with a professional DJ provider, they will excel at helping you find and maintain that exact balance!  Their experience and ability to read a crowd will find a natural balance with your tastes and goals, while helping everyone have the best time possible!

We just need to be mindful of the lesson learned in our plant story.  We shouldn’t be so determined to get away from one extreme, that we swing too far to the other.  We also shouldn’t lose sight of WHY certain recognizable songs are in fact common, and why they are so successful and widely used to begin with.

While we want to personalize our wedding day, putting our own unique stamp on it in every way, we also need to remember that while our wedding day is “about” us, our reception is FOR our guests.  It’s a way for us to thank everyone for being a part of our special day!

Realizing this, our shared, common goal should be striking a balance that ensures ALL of our guests feel as welcome, and included as possible.

GIVE me your “Must Play” songs.  I give you a form for them!  Give me your “DO-NOT-PLAY” songs.  I give you a form for that too!

Together, and working with these lists and parameters YOU choose, we’ll work to make sure your wedding day is as enjoyable for you and all your guests as it can possibly be.

It’s okay to “just say no” to certain songs.  It IS your day.  Just don’t be too quick to axe everything before the party even starts.

Songs are the tools your DJ uses to achieve their results. While we want to be sure that we put our own stamp on our event, and while we should set some parameters based on our tastes, we need to be sure we aren’t taking too many tools out of our DJ’s toolbox.  When we do, we run the risk of artificially limiting the enjoyment of our guests because they can’t hear some songs they enjoy, and would like to dance to.6617893875_8587aaf314_n

Besides… When it comes right down to it, you’d be surprised what songs you might find YOURSELF having a GREAT TIME dancing to!  It’s really easy to write a song off as “cheesy” on a piece of paper.  But it’s WAAAAAAYYY harder to resist the energy of that same song drawing you to the dance floor when everyone else in the room is GOING CRAZY for it!

Trust me…  I see it all the time.

After all, this is what I do.

Father-Daughter Dance Song Ideas!

A bride’s dance with her father is most often one of the emotional highlights of any wedding reception.  It is symbolic of so many things between them, and to each other, and finding the right song to represent their relationship and express those sentiments can be a challenge.

Fortunately, there are many songs that work wonderfully for these dances.  Some of the most common and popular are listed below, but this is by no means an exhaustive list.  See if any of them speak to you, and your relationship with the (first) man in your life.

I Loved Her First – Heartland
My Little Girl – Tim Mcgraw
My Girl – Temptations
Butterfly Kisses – Bob Carlisle
What A Wonderful World – Louis Armstrong
My Wish – Rascall Flatts
Cinderella – Steven Curtis Chapman
The Way You Look Tonight – Frank Sinatra
Unforgettable – Natalie Cole With Nat King Cole
Father And Daughter – Paul Simon
In My Life – Beatles
Isn’t She Lovely – Stevie Wonder
Because You Loved Me (Theme From Up Close And Personal) – Celine Dion
It Won’t Be Like This For Long – Darius Rucker
Stealing Cinderella – Chuck Wicks
Over The Rainbow – Iz
Wonderful Tonight – Eric Clapton
Daughters – John Mayer
Dance With My Father – Luther Vandross
I Hope You Dance – Lee Ann Womack
Lullabye (Goodnight, My Angel) – Billy Joel
Daddy’s Little Girl – Al Martino
Walk With You – Edwin Mccain
Have I Told You Lately – Rod Stewart
The Way You Look Tonight (From Father Of The Bride) – Steve Tyrell
Daughter – Loudon Wainwright Iii
Stand By Me – Ben E. King
Landslide – Fleetwood Mac
There You’ll Be – Faith Hill
I’ll Always Be Your Baby – Natalie Grant
You Raise Me Up – Josh Groban
How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved By You) – James Taylor
You Are So Beautiful – Joe Cocker
He Didn’t Have To Be – Brad Paisley
Through The Years – Kenny Rogers
Forever Young – Rod Stewart
You Are The Sunshine Of My Life – Stevie Wonder
Then They Do – Trace Adkins
In My Daughter’s Eyes – Martina Mcbride
Brown Eyed Girl – Van Morrison
You’ve Got A Friend – James Taylor
Daddy’s Hands – Holly Dunn
Kind & Generous – Natalie Merchant
Wind Beneath My Wings – Bette Midler
Into The Mystic – Van Morrison
Hero – Mariah Carey
The Best Day – Taylor Swift
Tough Little Boys – Gary Allan
Here Comes The Sun – Beatles
Find Your Wings – Mark Harris

Who else can I dance with?

It’s not at all uncommon, be it because of a loss in the family, or simply because of family dynamics, for a bride to share a special spotlight dance with someone other than, or in addition to, her father.

Brothers, grandfathers, and stepfathers – all play very powerful roles in our lives, and all are wonderful candidates for relationships that can be acknowledged and celebrated with a spotlight dance.  Many of the suggestions above will fit these types of relationships as well.

Just remember that there’s no limit to the number of important folks you can spotlight during your wedding day celebration, and the ways to include and spotlight them are endless as well.

If you’d like more ideas or suggestions, please let me know.

I’d love to help!

Mother Son Dance Song – Skipping by Eddie Vedder

I love going off-the-beaten-path, finding unique, meaningful, and powerful songs to suggest to my couples for every part of their wedding day!

This one comes from Eddie Vedder, and is a wonderful song to share as a Mother/Son dance.  It can also be used for the seating of mothers & grandmothers at the beginning of the ceremony!

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Eddie Vedder – Skipping

I didn’t have to ask you, just took my hand
Off we went skipping throughout the land
The sky was blue and the blood filled my head
Me and you skipping throughout the land
All of my life from beginning to end
What I remember is holding your hand
And all that I’ll cherish is that time that we’ve spent
Me and you skipping throughout the land

All the loves lost and the one that I found
You lifted my gaze up off of the ground
Forever we’ll talk and forever we’ll drown
In each other skipping around

Gravity pulls so many men down
The atmosphere breathes but not in this town
You took me away and you held me so proud
Skipping, skipping, skipping around

All the king’s horses and all the king’s men
Could not keep me from holding your hand
When all that I wanted was something to protect
And all that I needed was your voice in my head
And all I remember from this life that I lived
Is me and you skipping throughout the land

For other fun & unique wedding music ideas, be sure to check out my boards on Pinterest!

Bouquet Toss: Song Ideas & Alternatives

To toss, or not to toss

For many modern brides, this is the question.  No wedding tradition needs to be adhered to steadfastly, and you should never feel pressured to include anything you aren’t excited about in your wedding day.  If a certain tradition has significance for you, or you just like it because it’s FUN, then include it in your celebration!  

The bouquet toss is one of the traditional elements that is familiar to most of us.

Many contemporary brides love this tradition, and it’s almost always a high-energy focal-point when it is included.  It’s becoming quite common though, for brides to either choose an alternative to the traditional bouquet toss, or to opt out of it altogether.

First, some history

Why do we do it, and where did it come from?  The tossing of the bridal bouquet is a custom with roots in England.  It was believed to be a way for the bride to pass along her good fortune to others.  Bridal guests would try to tear away pieces of the bride’s clothing and flowers in order to obtain this fortune.  In an attempt to get away from this tearing of her gown, the bride would toss her bouquet into the crowd.  As tradition has it, the single lady who catches the bouquet has received the bride’s fortune and will be next in line to marry.

What else can we do?

Many things can be done instead of the traditional tossing of the bouquet.  Here are just a few fun ideas:

  • Presentation.  Present the bouquet to someone special.  Work with your MC to include a short message letting folks know who you’re presenting your bouquet to, and why.
    • Your mom, mother-in-law, grandmother
    • Recently engaged friend
    • Someone celebrating a recent or near birthday, anniversary, etc.
    • Longest married couple
    • Your sister(s).  Use multiple bouquets as-needed
    • Anyone, for any reason you like!
  • Alternatives.  Instead of tossing a bouquet, you can toss other fun items instead.
    • Teddy Toss.  If there are a good number of young children present, you can do a “Teddy Toss” instead. Have the children gather together in the usual formation, and toss a small-to-medium sized stuffed animal.  This is a huge crowd favorite, and is a great way to include children in the celebration.  Can be done in addition to the traditional bouquet toss as well!
    • Glow Sticks.  Toss a home-made “bouquet” of glow sticks to be passed out by whoever catches it.  Great way to get the party started on the dancefloor once the lights go down!
Song Suggestions
Want some fun song ideas for your bouquet toss?  Here are the Top 50 choices from 2013!
1   Beyonce   Single Ladies (Put A Ring On It)
2   Lauper, Cyndi   Girls Just Want To Have Fun
3   Guetta, David Feat. Flo Rida & Nicki Minaj   Where Them Girls At
4   Weather Girls   It’s Raining Men
5   Benatar, Pat   Hit Me With Your Best Shot
6   Twain, Shania   Man! I Feel Like A Woman!
7   Little Big Town   Little White Church
8   Ludacris Feat. Mystikal   Move B***H
9   Spice Girls   Wannabe
10   Beyonce   Run The World (Girls)
11   Furtado, Nelly   Maneater
12   Buble, Michael   Haven’t Met You Yet
13   Kool & The Gang   Ladies Night
14   No Doubt   Just A Girl
15   Blondie   One Way Or Another
16   Kelis   Milkshake
17   Jepsen, Carly Rae   Call Me Maybe
18   Beastie Boys   Girls
19   Aguilera, Lil’ Kim, Mya & Pink, Christina   Lady Marmalade
20   Jackson, Michael   P.Y.T. (Pretty Young Thing)
21   Queen   Another One Bites The Dust
22   Orbison, Roy   Oh, Pretty Woman
23   Rihanna   Only Girl (In The World)
24   Bryan, Luke   Country Girl (Shake It For Me)
25   Mcbride, Martina   This One’s For The Girls
26   Survivor   Eye Of The Tiger
27   Beastie Boys   Hey Ladies
28   Stefani, Gwen   Hollaback Girl
29   Destiny’s Child   Independent Women Part 1
30   West, Kanye Feat. Jamie Foxx   Gold Digger
31   Fergie   Clumsy
32   Hilson, Keri   Pretty Girl Rock
33   Valentine, Brooke Feat. Big Boi & Lil’ Jon   Girlfight
34   Jones, Tom   She’s A Lady
35   Motley Crue   Girls, Girls, Girls
36   Springfield, Dusty   Wishin’ And Hopin’
37   Hendrix, Jimi   Foxey Lady
38   Mars, Bruno   Marry You
39   Ross, Diana & The Supremes   You Can’t Hurry Love
40   Benatar, Pat   Love Is A Battlefield
41   Keys, Alicia   Girl On Fire
42   Perry, Katy   California Gurls
43   702   Where My Girls At?
44   Beyonce   Diva
45   Beyonce   Love On Top
46   Fergie Feat. Ludacris   Glamorous
47   Gomez, Selena   Come & Get It
48   Def Leppard   Pour Some Sugar On Me
49   Dixie Cups   Chapel Of Love
50   Kravitz, Lenny   American Woman
Whatever you decide… 
Your DJ/MC should be able to help you pull off a smooth-flowing, and high-energy celebration, and they should be more than happy to provide you with a lot of info like this for every aspect of your wedding day.  They should have plenty of great ideas about options and alternatives as well.If the DJs you’re talking to don’t seem to have this type of knowledge, experience, or info for you, keep looking until you find one that DOES.
Better yet, just give me a call!  916-223-4508

10 Unique First Dance Ideas

When you work with Sounds To Go, you get no shortage of song suggestions for every part of your wedding day celebration.

Sometimes choosing the First Dance song that speaks best to the two of you is tricky, especially if you want it done in a way that isn’t overly common or expected.  If your selection is in a musical style or genre you like to listen to yourself, even better!

Here on DreamWedding.com are some great, contemporary selections that are somewhat off-the-beaten-path.

Enjoy!

Photography Packages: Be Sure To Get The Coverage You Need!

Tip: Try to avoid hourly photography packages that will see your photographer leaving early on during, or half-way through, your reception.

Sacramento’s professional photographers and videographers are some of the hardest working wedding vendors around!  Quite often, along with DJs (often the first vendor to arrive at your location, and the last to leave) they are also some of the LONGEST working wedding professionals you are hiring.

Their days start very early on with shots of you and your party getting ready, and often involve travel between several different locations.

For this coverage, many, or perhaps maybe even most photographers charge an hourly rate for their time and talents.  As with anything else, these rates can add up fast, but trust me – if you’re working with a true professional (especially one from my preferred vendor list:  http://www.sounds2go.com/sacramento-wedding-dj-vendors-venues.html), they are worth so much more than you are paying!

Please note:  While I’m suggesting in this article that we maximize and make the most of your wedding day photography coverage, I would never recommend hiring a less-experienced photographer who is “cheaper” simply because you will get “more time.”  Just as with DJs, you’ll only get one shot or chance to “get it right.”  It is better to work within the limitations of your budget with a quality provider, or even re-evaluate your budget itself for the sake of quality, than it is to sacrifice quality itself.

Understanding the investment you make in your choice of wedding photographer and videographer, I would suggest, wherever possible, that you consider arranging enough hourly coverage to last you until at least 2 hours before your reception is slated to end.  They don’t need to stick around to take umpteen-million photos of folks dancing and having a good time, but it is important that they are scheduled long enough to allow for, and to capture, a thoughtfully-designed and smooth-flowing event that has the best interests of your guests’ enjoyment – and NOT your vendors scheduled – as first priority.

Why is this important?  Well, if your photographer has to leave much earlier than a couple of hours prior-to the scheduled end-time of your reception, one of two things will happen.

Events and special dances at your reception will have to be arranged and crammed together “up-front” so your photographer can capture all the important shots “before they leave,” or they will miss some of them altogether when they do!

Why does this matter?  Your wedding DJ will work closely with you in the months leading up to your wedding to develop a smoothly progressing event flow that has dynamics, and that will ebb and flow from one event to the next.

This flow is determined ahead of time with you, and takes into account your desires for your wedding day celebration, the demographics of your guests, vendor & venue logistics, and so much more.  This means that some events will tend to be “spread out,” separated by segments of open dancing to avoid your guests (and you) feeling rushed, or like you’re just being pulled from one event to the next.  Your timeline should allow your reception (and you) to “breathe.”

In short, there is a lot that goes into planning a deliberately smooth-flowing, and stress-free reception, and both of those things can be lost if we end up having to “rearrange” or “move up” special events and dances last-minute because of scheduling limitations brought about by poor planning or budget limitations.

When reserving your photographer, you should be sure to reserve their talents long enough that they are able to focus on you, and do what they do best…  Which at the end of the day, is capturing your thoughtfully-planned and well-executed wedding day celebration!

An entertainment schedule that is cut short or rearranged last-minute because of limited vendor coverage isn’t conducive to your primary goals going into your wedding day, and can work against you.

Sometimes though, budget constraints do see us needing to cut coverage shorter than we might like.  When this happens, it is vital that your DJ/MC know about the time-frames involved ahead of time so this can be taken into account when developing your itinerary, and so he/she can be on the same page with your photographer prior-to the wedding day itself as to the schedules and timelines involved.  Proactive communication and a team-player attitude are required from all your vendors!

When you work with me, I will always find out how long your other vendors are going to be present, and will communicate with them before your wedding, getting them copies of our timeline, synchronizing our timeline with their photography schedule, etc..

This communication, and the drive behind it is never one-sided either.  This pro-active communication helps meet your photographer’s needs and allows us to achieve all of your objectives as well!   We’ll coordinate on the timing and placement of certain special shots that you would like to capture.  It allows us to place them when and where they make the most sense based on any number of variables.  Some examples of common shots that need to be thoughtfully placed within your reception timeline include Sunset Shots, and group photos with all of your guests and wedding party.  When it comes to group photos in particular, there are many variables that can play into the best timing and placement, including venue layout, time of day/night, and more.

You should expect no less than this type and level of communication between all of the vendors you decide to work with on your wedding day!

Bottom line:  You’re hiring and entrusting your DJ/MC with the overall success of your wedding day.  It only makes sense that you’d want your photographer and videographer to be able to capture as many of those special memories and moments as they can!

Best Bride and Groom Last Dance Songs

One great way to end your Wedding is to have a Last Dance.   This can be a very powerful moment when it is shared by all of your guests on the dance floor.

You can choose slow, romantic & sentimental, or you can choose instead to have your night go out with a BANG by keeping it super-fun and upbeat!

Whether you choose the slow or fast approach, the final dance of the night is a great way to bring your wedding day celebration full-circle and signal a close to your night without having it “fizzle” out.

Here’s a list of some of the most popular choices for Last Dance Wedding Songs.

1. Save the Last Dance For Me- Michael Buble or The Drifters
2. I Had the Time of My Life (From Dirty Dancing)- Bill Medley & Jennifer Warnes
3. Don’t Stop Believin’- Journey
4. Last Dance- Donna Summer
5. Closing Time- Semisonic
6. We Are Young- Fun
7. Glad You Came- The Wanted
8. Home- Edward Sharp & the Magnetic Zeros
9. The Time (Dirty Bit)- The Black Eyed Peas
10. Wonderful Tonight- Eric Clapton
11. Take Me Home Tonight- Eddie Money
12. At Last- Etta James
13. Time Of Your Life (Good Riddance)- Green Day
14. Piano Man- Billy Joel
15. Good Life- One Republic
16. Sweet Caroline- Neil Diamond
17. What A Wonderful World- Louis Armstrong
18. Let’s Get it On- Marvin Gaye
19. Today Was a Fairytail- Taylor Swift
20. Marry Me- Train
21. We Are Family- Sister Sledge
22. I Won’t Give Up- Jason Mraz
23. Friends in Low Places- Garth Brooks
24. I DOn’t Wanna Miss a Thing- Aerosmith
25. Goodnight Sweetheart- Spaniels
26. Shout- Isley Brothers
27. Forever- Chris Brown
28. One More Time- Daft Punk
29. You Are the Best Thing- Ray LaMontagne
30. All You Need is Love- Beatles
31. Send Me On My Way- Rusted Root
32. Come Away With Me- Norah Jones
33. Stand By Me- Ben E King
34. I Can’t Help Falling In Love With You- Elvis Presley
35. You and Me- Dave Matthews Band
36. Don’t Stop Me Now- Queen
37. Let’s Stay Together- Al Green
38. Bless the Broken Road- Rascal Flatts
39. I Don’t Want This Night To End- Luke Bryan
40. Bohemian Rhapsody- Queen
41. Livin’ On A Prayer- Bon Jovi
42. Then- Brad Paisley
43. Home- Phillip Phillips
44. New York, New York- Frank Sinatra
45. Home Sweet Home- Motley Crue
46. Take Me Home- Phil Collins

When you work with me to help plan your wedding, I’ll provide you with awesome lists like this for each and every part of your wedding day celebration to help inspire you and to help make your wedding day as personalized as it can possibly be!

Wedding Song Suggestions – Father Figure Dance

We’re all familiar with the traditional Father-Daughter dance during wedding receptions, and it’s definitely a super-meaningful & emotional highlight of any wedding celebration.

Often though, there can also be another gentleman in the life of the bride who’s role and influence have been either father-like, or who has been just as important to the bride through the years.

Whether it’s a stepfather, brother, or someone else close to you that you would like to share a dance with, there are many songs that can pay an homage to them, while being descriptive of their role in your life, your relationship with one another, or of your feelings for them.

I’d love to work with you to find just the right selections for each part of your wedding day celebration.  In the meantime, here are some great ideas for this type of special dance.

Smile – Nat King Cole

There You’ll Be – Faith Hill

Can You Feel The Love Tonight – Elton John

Then They Do – Trace Adkins

What A Wonderful World – Louis Armstrong

You Raise Me Up – Josh Groban

Through The Years – Kenny Rogers

Because You Loved Me – Celine Dion

My Wish – Rascal Flatts

Send Me On My Way – Rusted Root

Stand By Me – Ben E. King

Fix You – Coldplay

How Do We Get Them To Dance?

Awesome question!

Your DJ should be able to give you different ideas on how to get your dance floor started on your wedding day.  Most importantly though, your DJ should be able to get folks participating in your dance floor without resorting to cheesy or embarrassing tactics or putting anyone on the spot.Sacramento DJ Getting People to Dance at Your Wedding!

I’ll focus on one such idea here, and it relies on a powerful but subtle trick I like to use to get your dance floor started.

Trying to get a dance floor started at a wedding can be challenging for different reasons.  One of those challenges is that no one wants to be the FIRST ONE to get out and dance!  My little trick is pretty good at overcoming that though.  :)

Let’s imagine YOUR wedding day…

All eyes are on you because you just shared your first dance together, and emotions in the room are high.  Your dance song fades, and I (yes ME, your DJ, RIGHT…?) remain silent and let nature take its course.  The whole room erupts into applause!

Then, as this applause fades out, I congratulate you both.  While you remain on the dance floor, I then invite ALL of the other couples present to JOIN YOU on the dance floor to share a slow dance with you on your wedding day!

VIOLA!  You get an INSTANT packed dance floor, and it feels completely natural to everyone involved because it’s something you wanted to share with them on your special day, and not something “the DJ” asked them to do!  That IS why they’re there after all, right – to share such moments with you!

This idea is great for several reasons:

1)  You get an INSTANT packed dance floor!  After that slow song, I go right into an upbeat dance selection, and people keep moving and start dancing the night away!

2)  It gives older friends and family, and folks who might not consider themselves “dancers” a chance to get out on the floor and share a dance with their special someone.  We’ll have more slow songs and all types of genres throughout the night, but this dance is a nice way for people to feel comfortable on the floor without feeling that all eyes are on them.

3)  It makes a GREAT photo-op for your photographer!  They get to start the night off with a fantastic shot of a PACKED dance floor with you sharing an intimate time with all who are closest to you!

There are other variations of this technique that I’d love to share with you, but this one is by far the most popular and commonly picked by my couples because of it’s effectiveness, and subtlety.

So you see, finding a great DJ is about more than finding someone to “play some music” and “make some announcements.”

It’s about finding someone who understands the psychology of your guests, and who knows how to design and manipulate the flow of your wedding from beginning to end to make sure that everyone is involved and has the best time possible at your wedding!

Sure, a DJ can get your dance floor filled without employing a creative strategy like the one above, but how long will it take them to get that first, second, and third person on the floor?  How many different songs and genres will they cycle through – each one making the whole thing more and more awkward for your guests – before they find one that will actually get someone to come to the floor?  This is the type of situation you can easily avoid by making sure your DJ has a solid plan that MAKES SENSE when you ask them this important question.

Want more cool ideas like this?  I’d love to discuss them with you!  My planning materials cover all types of different scenarios and key questions to help you and your guests get the most out of your wedding day celebration!

Thanks to Lindsey & Philip for Choosing Sounds To Go!

Thanks to Lindsey & Philip for deciding to work with me for their 6/8/13 wedding at the Elks

Tower in Downtown Sacramento!  This will be my first time working at this venue!

My thanks as well to Lindsey’s planner, April Mosher from April’s Events, who recommended me to Lindsey.  April & I have worked together before, and I look forward to working with her again!

Here’s to a GREAT wedding reception!